tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2251672835010980424.post3101826569833740688..comments2023-10-16T07:47:47.093-04:00Comments on I'm Just Ducky, Thanks.: Difficult DayDuckyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07541495487673604312noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2251672835010980424.post-35278042727422740302012-07-27T01:34:50.765-04:002012-07-27T01:34:50.765-04:00I am here from ICLW and have just read the last se...I am here from ICLW and have just read the last several posts to figure out what was happening. I just have to say that my heart aches that you are in this position. What a gut wrenching experience for you! I think that writing the email was a good idea. It gives you a chance to express yourself, while giving Gabby the chance to digest what you've said. I don't think you said anything out of line or something that Gabby would likely be able to guess from your reaction at yesterday's appointment, either. <br /><br />I hope that the air clears between you and Gabby quickly and that you are all able to talk about your difficult situation openly and honestly. Together you should decide how to move forward.<br /><br />Sending hugs your way.Staciehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01471803757485977959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2251672835010980424.post-11447392899277637142012-07-26T23:00:07.799-04:002012-07-26T23:00:07.799-04:00I totally understand. I hope I didn't upset yo...I totally understand. I hope I didn't upset you. This just isn't fair for either one of you and I wish I could do something to help. That doctor can go to hell!! Oops, did I say that? I will keep you all in my prayers.Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08140491879334344914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2251672835010980424.post-24743651462613054842012-07-26T17:37:48.192-04:002012-07-26T17:37:48.192-04:00Just checking in and sending more hugs your way.Just checking in and sending more hugs your way.KelBelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17400825492187240028noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2251672835010980424.post-85834130048660252012012-07-26T14:33:01.629-04:002012-07-26T14:33:01.629-04:00I'm so sorry you're going through this. I...I'm so sorry you're going through this. I'm visiting from ICLW, and it broke my heart to read your last couple of posts. I don't think your email was out of line. It sounds like Dr. A is full of it.Fieryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06477507213781894921noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2251672835010980424.post-53839080881396884042012-07-26T13:41:49.737-04:002012-07-26T13:41:49.737-04:00Sending lots of hugs your way!
An ICLW Visit from...Sending lots of hugs your way!<br /><br />An ICLW Visit from #63 <br />liddy @ <a href="http://bendingbackwards.wordpress.com" rel="nofollow">the unfair struggle</a> (mfi, speedskating, 1st 2ww)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2251672835010980424.post-1541725053936169482012-07-26T09:21:36.585-04:002012-07-26T09:21:36.585-04:00I hope you hear from Gabby soon. I'm sure she&...I hope you hear from Gabby soon. I'm sure she's struggling with this as well. Hugs, mama. What a heart-wrenching position to be in.Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07614553637265139846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2251672835010980424.post-9470928483251464002012-07-26T06:59:04.784-04:002012-07-26T06:59:04.784-04:00No, not bad at all! She has not written me back ye...No, not bad at all! She has not written me back yet and I'm sitting here constantly checking my email for it too. I'm a bit worried but everyone here (and my husband) has assured me that it wasn't a mean email (about her, maybe a bit mean towards the doctor). I think she is probably feeling guilty and terrible too, plus she has all the hormones from a triplet pregnancy going through her right now, not helping her emotions, I'm sure. I feel bad she's in this situation too, because she didn't sign up for this and made it clear before we ever cycled she was only comfortable with twins.Duckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07541495487673604312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2251672835010980424.post-17153192415647735612012-07-26T06:56:04.561-04:002012-07-26T06:56:04.561-04:00As an attorney, I know there are no legal means of...As an attorney, I know there are no legal means of changing the contract without mutual consent to an amendment. Originally I had no problem with the clause because in all my IVF and FET cycles, we'd never put three back and it never occurred to me we would (this contract was negotiated well before we ever cycled). I'd always gotten a bunch of eggs from all of my cycles before and put back 2, and I thought this cycle would be no different. What effing "luck" that I would end up with only 3 eggs fertilized this time and all three would make it to day 3 and it be advised to put all of them back, with a 2% (1% Dr. A is now saying) chance of this.<br /><br />It's not that I want to keep a good relationship for the sake of a good relationship. If she weren't holding the most precious packages right now I wouldn't be as concerned, but since she is, I need to make sure she takes good care of the rest of them, because they will still need her care when this is all over. I know there is no way you can force a woman to either hold onto a pregnancy or force a termination. And I think that's such a basic right, I don't think I would ever be in favor of that anyway. :(Duckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07541495487673604312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2251672835010980424.post-33963509528391755412012-07-26T03:58:44.161-04:002012-07-26T03:58:44.161-04:00Here from ICLW, thank you so much for stopping by ...Here from ICLW, thank you so much for stopping by and saying hi.<br /><br />I am so sorry that your Doc was so insensitive. To be so blunt and gung-ho about it without even entering into how hard such a decision would be. I will have to catch up on your story.Lunahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02655205298951083138noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2251672835010980424.post-24759087366991802822012-07-26T01:32:14.307-04:002012-07-26T01:32:14.307-04:00Here via ICLW and I am sorry about your day. I don...Here via ICLW and I am sorry about your day. I don't know your back story yet, I will have to read up a bit. But it sounds like you are really thinking this through and doing what you need to, to take care of your self. <br /><br />Sending, peace, love, light, thoughts and prayers your way.<br /><br />Thank you for visiting/your comment on my blog.Kathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04175833982955486083noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2251672835010980424.post-5257873101525239022012-07-26T01:19:46.744-04:002012-07-26T01:19:46.744-04:00I don't think your email was harsh or out of l...I don't think your email was harsh or out of line. I think she'll understand and be ok. It's a big thing she's doing and I'm sure she knew that going in. Is it bad I really wanna know what she wrote back?!ousoonerchickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09885981540075640756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2251672835010980424.post-19610434184729271462012-07-25T22:23:34.078-04:002012-07-25T22:23:34.078-04:00My heart is broken for you and this just makes me ...My heart is broken for you and this just makes me sick that your doctor put you in this situation. I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I know you don't want to go back on the contract, but I can't help but think you have the right to because they are your children, and who wouldn't do anything for their babies? Is there anything you can legally do so that she cannot terminate one of the babies? I know you don't want to ruin your relationship...I'm just wondering. I feel so awful for you. I'll be keeping you in my prayers.Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08140491879334344914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2251672835010980424.post-33889546807532613742012-07-25T21:44:50.267-04:002012-07-25T21:44:50.267-04:00I would have wrote a letter explaining my feelings...I would have wrote a letter explaining my feelings too. She has a right to know, and after what happened she may have been wondering. I imagine it's better to clear the air than to leave things hanging. I wish I could give you a real hug right now, because this is such a difficult situation. My heart goes out to you, and I am so sad and angry for you.AnotherDreamerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11487881766884178761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2251672835010980424.post-59031189224190868912012-07-25T19:19:16.327-04:002012-07-25T19:19:16.327-04:00Again - cannot believe the Doctor was so... casual...Again - cannot believe the Doctor was so... casual. <br /><br />And I am the furthest thing from a Doctor ever, but considering all 3 of them took.. It seems like your eggs are pretty good? Certainly good enough to at least say there's the slightest (if not greater) chance that they're not the problem? Sounds like she has a bit of an ego.Stupid Storkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00161877442649107282noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2251672835010980424.post-75012165614115666062012-07-25T14:55:14.243-04:002012-07-25T14:55:14.243-04:00I think you were right to share your feelings with...I think you were right to share your feelings with her. You two are so intimately involved in this whole process and in the lives of those 3 babes, so it makes perfect sense that you would be so open and honest with her about how you're feeling. And you weren't blaming her at ALL, so there's no need to worry. This is an issue with your doctor and how she has handled things and you have every right to be angry about it. It's not a position either of you (you or Gabby) should have to be in, and yet here you are, having to make a horribly unfair decision. I'm so sorry, and again, I'm sending up lots of prayers for this to work out as smoothly as possible. Thinking of you lots.Emily https://www.blogger.com/profile/06166528973767848150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2251672835010980424.post-18998832962598602402012-07-25T13:13:39.489-04:002012-07-25T13:13:39.489-04:00I don't know your history at all, but as an ar...I don't know your history at all, but as an armchair RE, I've always thought the hardest part was in figuring out where the issue was- embryos or the uterus,and in many cases it will remain a mystery forever. So I was horrified that any RE would put back 3 in a surrogate, who probably has great proven fertility with zero implantation problems, while NOT being prepared for the possibility of triplets.<br /><br />Your RE definitely deserves more than a rap on the knuckles, but beyond that, I'm so sorry you and Gabby have to deal with this frightening and distressing reality.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15553205805046479504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2251672835010980424.post-37411771772324947222012-07-25T13:12:25.693-04:002012-07-25T13:12:25.693-04:00You have a lot at stake here and so I think you ha...You have a lot at stake here and so I think you have every to express how you are feeling and I hope Gabby would understand that.Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11917822168137274298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2251672835010980424.post-3935471445159932552012-07-25T12:57:12.353-04:002012-07-25T12:57:12.353-04:00You are obviously a person who needs to express he...You are obviously a person who needs to express her feelings (aren't most of us who have a blog) and I'm glad you felt comfortable enough to let Gabby know how you felt about the whole thing. This Dr. A put you all in such a tough situation!Michelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11900519911100476545noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2251672835010980424.post-58205621449457150652012-07-25T12:47:37.833-04:002012-07-25T12:47:37.833-04:00My heart is breaking for you. Sending lots of hugs...My heart is breaking for you. Sending lots of hugs and strength your way!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13429488083596079882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2251672835010980424.post-90143506915873734642012-07-25T11:32:35.726-04:002012-07-25T11:32:35.726-04:00I think that the email was a wonderful idea and I ...I think that the email was a wonderful idea and I am sure she has to understand how many emotions you are experiencing now. You are absolutely right though, your doctor is the ONLY one involved in this situation that doesnt have any stake into what is going on. She doesnt have anything to lose or trying to maintain a good relationship with a your carrier. Thinking about you.Just Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06315564549299993908noreply@blogger.com