Wednesday, November 23, 2011

Just a Petty Post

My SIL found out TODAY she is pregnant and announced it to everyone tonight. Way to keep that a secret for more than 3 seconds. Not looking forward to Thanksgiving tomorrow when that's all that will be discussed.

She is 4 years younger than me. She got married 2 months before me. She got engaged 2 years before me and because I tried to be nice and not steal her thunder we had an 18 month engagement so they could get married first. I've regretted doing that ever since. We could have started trying that much sooner. Out of all the friends and people who've gotten pregnant in the last 3+ years, I wanted to be pregnant before her. And have my baby. I accomplished the first but never for very long. And now here's another person who just has no problem.

L and I are the oldest in our families so I'm used to being first for everything. I know it sounds bratty. It was hard enough not to be the first to get married in his family (even though I was the first in my family's generation) to be married. I thought for sure, starting 3 years ago that we would be the first to have a baby. Nope.

And she's a teacher. And has it perfectly planned out (she's due in July) for her job. Isn't it great to be her?

Yes this post is petty. I'm just pissed. She announces she's pregnant today and I get to trigger. Awesome.


  1. Lurker here - that totally blows. :-/ Hoping the trigger is successful.

  2. Maybe it's because I'm infertile but this post is not petty, it's honest. You're hurt, people like her are just blissfully unaware and it sucks. You just want to shake them by the shoulders and tell them how much pain and suffering others are enduring and to stop flaunting their happiness while others grieve around them. Ok maybe that comes off as bitter, but ugh. I know we should be happy for the people in our lives but it just hurts sometimes, especially when we feel like we should have been "first" or deserved it more. Sometimes life just isn't fair. Oh and I hate how they have it all planned out. How do people do that, is there a class they took in high school where they learned that that we missed? I feel you, just know you aren't alone and if I could be there with you at the table today only to look over and say "it's going to be ok" I would be.

  3. I don't think it's petty, I think it's a normal reaction for the situation (*hugs*)

    So hoping for you.

  4. *hugs* That sucks. My SIL called DH as soon as she got a positive HPT (so weird) to tell him the news. He told me and I cried so much. Thinking of you. xx