One month from today I will (hopefully) have my babies in my arms! They will be small, so I think they will get some NICU time no matter what, but I pray it is very short!
Things are a whirlwind! My shower is this weekend! I just realized that L's extended family doesn't know that I'm not pregnant. You would think my MIL would have told them, but L doesn't believe she has and he and I don't talk to them except at family functions (like a baby shower! :)
So now I'm not sure what to do. It should be fairly obvious that I'm not carrying twins but I bet they will stare at my non-existent belly trying to figure things out OR ask me how I'm feeling. Which is "great!" but I don't think I should lead them on.
Any suggestions for what I should do? I talked to Gabby about putting her picture up so people could see/learn more about her (and also see my babies, haha) - but it almost seems like a "memorial" and kind of strange! Likewise, making an announcement about it. A friend suggesting a posterboard talking about our journey to parenthood but that seems like it would be very depressing. Open heart surgery, engagement, marriage, adoption, miscarriage open heart surgery, IVF, chemical, miscarriage, etc....that's a joy to read about!
A "game" about my carrier seems like it would be a good idea...but I don't know. I should have thought about this sooner! I'm already so stretched for time this week!
What about a card or something where the family could write notes of thanks to Gabby? Serves two purposes of getting your message across and adding to Gabby's thank you.
ReplyDeleteThat's a great idea! I think I will incorporate that!
DeleteOr if you don't want to make a big announcement, for those not in the know; when asked how you're feeling could you say something to the tune of,"Great, since our carrier is the one doing the heavy lifting." Or something to that effect, then they could take it how they want.
ReplyDeleteGreat response! I need to have something up my sleeve, so thank you :)
DeleteHow large is the gathering, can you contact the people who don't know in advance? Could you have a small card at each table introducing Gabby and surrogacy/gestational carrying to people?
ReplyDeleteI LOVE THAT!!! What a wonderful idea! I'm definitely doing that! Thank you so much!
Deleteone month!!!!! You're getting close, how exciting!!!! =)
ReplyDeleteAhhhh! :)
DeleteI like the card at each table idea! Maybe that would be the least amount of trouble/work for you while getting the news out there? HAVE FUN this weekend!
ReplyDeleteYes, it's wonderful! I never would have thought of that myself! Thanks I can't wait!
DeleteI don't have any ideas of my own, but I really like the idea of a card at the tables and one for everyone to sign to Gabby :)
ReplyDeleteEnjoy your shower! You are so close now! Keeping you all in my thoughts and sending positive vibes!
No ideas for you but I hope you have a good shower. 1 month!!!!!!!!!!
ReplyDeleteYAY!! One month! For what it's worth, they say that smaller/more stressed babies are more likely to develop/mature faster and earlier. Considering your little girls are going *almost* all the way to 38 weeks, it is quite a strong possibility that they will not need to go to NICU. It sounds like Gabby has had a tremendous pregnancy with them with no issues. So, although it is good to be prepared for either scenario, based on the pregnancy, I'd bank on all time spent directly with you and only you!! :) I wish you the best!!!
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