We wanted to stay around $500, for obvious reasons. I figured that was a good amount to show our gratitude yet not so much that I would look back and feel I went overboard (especially when we're struggling on one paycheck in a few months!).
I debated doing a spa day, but I had just given her a massage for Christmas and she seems to go often herself and I wanted something that would be a little more permanent. We also debated a cleaning service for her house and/or some dinner service after she gives birth, but since we don't live in her area we didn't really know of reputable services there. And those aren't permanent either.
We got many votes for a Tiffany necklace. I'm not really into Tiffany at all because I think you're paying for the name mostly, but hey it's the classic NAME. And it comes in a pretty blue or I'll just call it TURQUOISE box so I can say, "Hey you like turquoise, right?" Haha.
I found this and thought it was perfect. Two babies, two families connected forever, two circles. It's a piece of jewelry she can wear with anything, isn't too in your face (i.e. initials of babies or something obvious) yet is still meaningful.
And then for her husband/family, we got suggestions for an iPad or Kindle. It's not very sentimental but I don't know if men really care about that. I looked online and thought the iPad Mini might be a good idea, slightly cheaper and we can get it engraved on the back. The kids can download apps for it, husband (and Gabby) can download books if they want (right? you can do that on the iPad, right?) or use it for email, pictures, whatever. It's not permanent but I don't know if that matters so much for the husband/kids.
I like these gifts - they seem nice but not crazy extravagant like an all-expenses paid vacation to Disney. We would love to go extravagant but just can't afford it. And there's never a gift that will be good enough for what they have done.
So now we just have to come up with a good quote for the back. Probably we should just say To The ______ Clan, Love the _______ Family, but I want something more. The leading favorite we have right now is from Shakespeare, The Twelfth Night:
"I can no other answer make but thanks, and thanks, and ever thanks."