Wednesday, March 14, 2012

Surrogate Agreement

Well, I'm currently on CD54, no sign of AF yet. Anyways...

Our attorney with the surrogate agency sent us a first draft copy of the agreement between us and Gabby. We get to see it first before it's sent to Gabby's attorney.

Overall I'm very pleased with it. They included a bunch of stuff in there we had talked about months ago, and I'm not accustomed to that level of competence :)Ok, usually that's doctors.

Being an attorney myself, of course I had things to change in it. I asked for them to send me a copy in word (they sent it in PDF) so I could redline and tracked changes to it and she did right away. Yeah! I like her already.

They held the amount we are paying Gabby herself down to the original amount we wanted. Before we knew who Gabby was, we were told she was looking for $3K more. ($3K is probably what PGS is going to cost us, so I would like to not pay that if needed). They told us they weren't sure if we could do it. Maybe we still can't and Gabby's attorney will ask for more, but I'm glad they at least put what we asked for to start with.

The amounts for multiples is higher than we otherwise thought, so I'm asking about it. I have no shame. Luckily, I *mostly* do contracts all day long at work (when I'm not going to depositions for uncomfortable things - seriously, yesterday it was about pornography at work - who does such a thing??? Ok, I digress...) so I am in my element track changing contracts. I figure, we'll ask and we'll see what the answer is. May not have a choice in the end, but if you don't ask you'll never know!

There's actually a clause in the agreement that no part of it will be put on any website. This must mean there are a lot of blogs with intended parents out there, because otherwise they wouldn't need this. So why can't I really find any?? Also, they put in effort and get money for drafting the agreement, so they don't want anyone lifting it.

Got most of the medical records that the genetic counselor asked for and sent. All I need is my cystic fibrosis blood test from when I was pregnant (I'm sure I've had plenty of those)...

I want to start this so badly!!


  1. Sounds like your moving forward with the surrogacy, I'm so excited for you.

    54 days, huh, what's up with that?

  2. Sorry you're in cycle limbo. But sounds like you're making some progress with the surrogacy :)

  3. It must be great to have some progress on something (even if it isn't your own cycle). Just had to chime in about the PDF agreements. Seriously, I don't get it. Every other lawyer in the world will send you a contract that is under review in PDF. And half of them complain when you want it in word. Once I marked something up and color scanned it back to opposing counsel. When he complained about having HIS personal assistant insert the changes, I attached his emails refusing to send me a word doc.