And I shouldn't...I should get used to this in the coming months and think of a good response, but I've been thinking about this since the beginning and can't come up with anything.
We had new neighbors (young neighbors! Younger than us I'm pretty sure) move into the condo next to us last year. We live in a development where 99% of the owners are elderly so it's always nice to see young people move in. We're friendly when we see each other, wave hi and everything, but we've never done more than small talk about their dog, our dog, the weather, etc. Heck, I didn't even know their names.
Well, they got pregnant (I will never forget when L sprung that on me and I was not prepared) last year and had a baby. Didn't even know whether it was a girl or boy, but yesterday as I was walking the dog, the girl (mom) was walking her baby around the private road we're on. So I stopped to say hi, asked her name (I probably should be more embarrassed I didn't know but eh) and asked her about her stroller.
I'm overwhelmed by strollers at this point in time. They are very confusing to me (twin strollers). We actually bought a Chicco Keyfit travel system (only 1!) when we were in the adoption process, but it's still in its box in the garage. Don't know if we will ever use it now, but I'm thinking we might want to keep it in case we're only bringing one baby someplace one day? I dunno.
These neighbors seem to have a LOT of money. I admit it, I'm jealous. When they first moved in the guy had a blinged out Hummer and a huge monster truck, and the girl drives an Audi. Before they even moved into the condo they completely remodeled it. And the stroller was a Peg Perego (how do you pronounce that? Peg - puh-raygo?) I have no idea what they do, I do know the guy was in the military but I don't think he is anymore (his Hummer license plate said Country First and was a veteran license plate) but I know the military doesn't pay that well! Anyway, jealousy will get me nowhere...I know.
Anyway so I asked about her stroller and she was really nice. And then she asked me if we were expecting. Maybe I should have expected that, because when I think about it, why else would ask someone about their stroller, but it really didn't even occur to me at the time that she would ask me. Now, she specifically asked if we were expecting. Not if I was pregnant. So I thought, it's not a lie, yes, yes we are? Then she asked when the baby was due, and I told her. Then she asked how I was feeling.
Um, fine. Had a migraine a couple of days ago, and I may be going batshit crazy from day to day but... Oh.
I just mumbled something like, "fine," but inside I felt like an idiot. I will be telling family and friends we're doing surrogacy, but not sure I want total strangers to know. But even though this is a stranger, it's a stranger we live next to. Now, it's been more than a year and the first time we've actually met up while walking, so the likelihood of that happening again probably isn't high. But still. Can someone get me a fake belly for the next 6 months?
But if I had told her we weren't expecting, and then we show up with 2 six months from now, that would be weird too. Grr...I don't want to tell everyone my business.
If anyone has any suggestions on how I should handle this sort of situation in the future, please let me know!